Being the youngest child of 5, I never really imagined myself becoming a mom growing up. It wasn’t until I settled into my marriage in my mid twenties that the thought of me having a part of Elvis and I became overwhelming. One day I woke up and realized our having kids was a part of my destiny somehow.
So, the evening we renewed our vows in front of family and friends at our restaurant, we chunked the birth control. I was terrified. And excited.
Within 3 months, I finally got what we both had been waiting for: a positive pregnancy test. We were speech less and stoked! The journey officially begun…
Now that my son is 2 1/2 and I am pregnant with our second child, my daughter, I can’t help but relish in the lessons they’ve already taught me as their mom.
Things I’ve Learned Since Becoming a Mommy:
1) Being a mom is the biggest source of inspiration I’ve ever had.
When it comes to taking care of my body, surrounding myself with positive people, cutting out toxic relationships, and working on my spirituality, my son and daughter inspire me to be a woman of wisdom. Of course, I’ll never be perfect, but I want my values to be apparent to my kids so they have a positive role model in their life.
2) Kids do what they see, not what they’re told.
Simple, right? Yet so many of us tell our kids not to ‘be mean’ or to ‘eat healthy’ yet ourselves act nastily or binge on unhealthy food for comfort. Kids sense a double standard, and it makes them lose respect…quick. If you want your child to be his or her best, then it starts with you becoming your greatest version.
3) Having a child is a GIFT.
I find it so sad when I hear moms complaining of how “their kids drain them” or other ways they feel having children somehow stole heir identity. Kids did not ask to be here, and it is up to us to take responsibility to create a positive, safe space for them once they are. Let go of the life you thought you’d have and embrace the life you do have as a mother. Thank God for your kids every day, for they are your biggest blessing!
When my boy was under a year
4) A Love like no other.
No one can prepare you for the love you’ll have for your own kids. There is no love grander than this. It is truly unconditional. Even thinking about how much I love my son (and already his sister), I could weep, and not just because I’m pregnant! But rather because I am amazed at how big my heart space has grown as a result of becoming his and her mommy.
5) Don’t let go of your dreams “because you’re a mom”.
If you relinquish your dreams in order to be a better mom, you will paradoxically be a worse mom. Why? Because kids sense everything. If they sense a mom who feels unfulfilled, overworked, and lacks purpose, they will feed off of that. Conversely, if you have a sense of identity and destiny and are consistently working towards your vision, your kids will learn that that is how they find joy. Not in sacrifice (which is a limited view of the world’s abundance), but rather in nurturing your sense of purpose in the world.
So, what about you? What have you learned since becoming a mommy? Let me know in the comments below. And…make it a great day!!